Archive for November 2008
November 4, 2008 was the best. birthday. ever. I turned 30 and had a great time doing it. I felt like the day was bursting at the seams with good things. I couldn’t have fought back my ear-to-ear grin even if I had tried.
My grandmother ushered in my big day by serenading me with “happy birthday” over the phone (a beloved but somewhat painful tradition in my truly tone-deaf family). This call came while I waited in line to vote for our next president (2+ hours!). The line moved slowly but I was so inspired to be standing alongside so many fellow citizens engaged in the political process and energized about the possibilities lying ahead that I rather enjoyed my time there. I felt like I was part of something bigger than myself, larger than the middle school auditorium where we cast our ballots, larger perhaps than the country itself.
At the office I was treated by my awesome colleagues to the most scrumptious birthday cake: coffee and chocolate ice cream cake from Gifford’s (a-mazing!). That gift would have been enough to make any birthday memorable. My boss also gave me homemade salty oat cookies (a shared love that started with the goodies sold at Teaism) and a beautifully handcrafted card decorated with a photo he had taken of a graveyard in New Orleans (I’m a sucker for dark humor).
When it was quittin’ time, I headed over to one of my favorite D.C. establishments to toast my 30th year. I was surrounded (literally, in a too-small booth) by a great group of friends—and 32 oz. beers and juicy burgers, of course.
And it was those lovely people that joined me and a bar full—or rather, a city full . . . a country full, really—of people eagerly awaiting the results of the most historic election of our lifetimes. Hearing Obama’s election night speech was the cherry on top of a truly fantastic day. When I fell asleep a short while later, the head on my pillow belonged to the happiest darn 30-year old in the world.
Nearly a decade ago I began my first job out of college at a nonprofit where I worked alongside a handful of fabulous late twenty- and thirty-something women. They seemed so comfortable in their own skins, so smart and witty, and a blast to be around. I was 21 at the time and a little freaked out about contributing to a retirement plan so early in my life. 30 seemed far away then. Even so, I recall feeling—quite often, actually—that if I was going to turn out to be anywhere near as happy and fulfilled as these women at that age, then I had a lot to look forward to. So here 30 is and I’m still friends with many of those ladies, who continue to serve as role models in my life. A lot has changed in the past 9 years and one of the biggest changes came about last night. I can’t wait to see what kinds of changes and new experiences the next decade of life will bring!
I started this blog on a whim. The premise was to try 30 new things in the 30 days before I turned 30. In some ways, it was just an excuse to make myself practice the art of writing every day. (As it turns out, that is harder to do than I thought it would be.) In other ways, it was a reason to get excited about a milestone that I see many people get bummed out about. Some of you may think it is really just a self-indulgent project that underscores my own egotism.
Regardless of the true nature of the beast, I know that I’ve gotten a lot out of this experiment and a lot of it has to do with YOU. I’ve heard from friends far and near who say they feel like we’re having an ongoing conversation in a way that wouldn’t be possible otherwise (due to distance, hectic schedules, and the like). You’ve shared your stories of empathy, sometimes privately and sometimes for all to see. I’ve witnessed the generosity of colleagues and loved ones giving to a deserving charity, banding together to come up with creative ideas, or simply sending me a kind word of encouragement. I want to thank you for reading. I appreciate the times you told me you like my writing (even if every one of them was a bald-faced lie). It has made me so happy to hear that I made a few of you laugh or prompted you to participate in something that made you feel good about yourselves. I also want to thank those of you who helped me to open myself up and to try new things, whether it was cooking authentically or flying high in a hot air balloon. I feel truly blessed to have such wonderful people in my life and I hope that I can dedicate the next 30 years of my life to reciprocating your big-heartedness, your thoughtfulness, and even your caustic humor (when appropriate, of course).
To cap off today’s new thing—reflecting on what I’ve learned from creating this blog—may I submit to you a list of “lessons learned” along the way. (I’m working from the most specific to the most generally applicable, so you might want to skip to the bottom for the good stuff.)
Things I learned about myself:
- Pablo Neruda is my. favorite. poet. ever.
- Stick to the fried stuff on a stick and leave the scotch eggs to the Brits.
- If at first you don’t like flan, try and try again.
- I’m probably way too uncoordinated to use a neti pot for its intended purpose.
- Don’t let your husband carve the jack-o-lantern without supervision.
- My friends and family are mighty generous.
Things I learned about specific life experiences:
- You can never eat too many apple products in one day.
- Farm animals aren’t as soft as they look.
- Avoid Route 66 whenever possible.
- When you have a cold, your senses of sweet and sour seem to keep going strong while your salty and bitter taste buds loose their steam. Skip the chicken noodle soup and go right for the Twizzlers and pickles.
- Staying home from work and taking a nap when you really need it really does help you heal faster.
- Talking to strangers can sometimes be a wonderful thing.
- If you feel like screaming your lungs out over a pathetically childish ride, do it.
- Life soundtracks can be more interesting than the last party mix you put together.
- You don’t need meat to make a mean paella (and certainly not a combo of chicken, and sausage, and seafood as the “touristy” American version of paella goes). No, you need a great teacher and a little bit of elbow grease.
- While cutting with a spoon may be more humane (and, in many instances, safer), using a Santoku is much more satisfying.
- They say that it isn’t the destination that matters but the journey. In some cases, this even applies to journeys on elevators.
- Don’t be size-ist; tiny apples can be just a scrumptious as larger apples.
- When a bartender tells you that one of the ingredients is “other stuff,” say no.
Things I learned about life in general:
- It’s easy to “go big or go home” when you’re already home.
- Hang on tight and enjoy the ride.
- Don’t give up.
- It is never a bad time to get in touch with your inner child and just do something silly and fun for the heck of it.
- One new thing often leads to another.
- Planning to make a plan takes longer than it does to just make the plan already!
- Take a day off.
- Knowledge doesn’t often make us feel less scared but it can make us feel more prepared.
- Don’t bite off more than you can chew.
- The big, momentous things stand out as the things that define our lives. But it is actually all of the small things that define each individual day; they are truly the things that add up to a life worth living.
- You gotta know when to get on your soapbox. Like, now would be a good time.
- If you open yourself up to something you think you won’t like, you just might be surprised.
- Some habits die hard. But it is good to be reminded every now and then that we have those pesky habits to begin with.
- (In the words of Douglas MacArthur) “Years wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.”
- Hard work and a fabulous mentor can really get you places you want to go!
- Don’t forget to tell the ones you love that you care.
- Good things are even better when you share them.
Thanks again for tuning in! I’d love to hear what you think about any of these lessons learned or about the blog experiment in general. Now, what to do next . . . ?
I’m sure there have been many special November 4ths throughout history. Two that come to mind are 1928 and 1978. These are the respective birth years of my husband’s grandfather and myself. I’ve never known anyone who shared my birthday before. It is especially touching to share my day—with a separation of a mere 50 years—with such a wonderful man.
Today our family celebrated an 80th and a 30th birthday ( a few days early – less than 48 hours early, really). The brunch get-together was a multi-generational affair:
- 1st generation: Pop-Pop
- 2nd generation: His daughter and son-in-law (my husband’s mom and dad)
- 3rd generation: My husband, his sister’s husband, me
- 4th generation: Our niece and nephew (Pop-Pop’s great grandchildren)
There is always a feeling that something really special is happening when you have so many generations in one room together. Probably because the time span for such a thing to take place is such a short one.
The dining room table was filled with a cornucopia of food: croissants, deviled eggs, chicken salad, potato salad, fruit, lasagna, mystery Jell-o salads . . . We even had two cakes and some of us had slices of both. It was enough to fill up the biggest-bellied adult! But the winner of the fullest tummy award goes to my nephew, who is a whopping 3 years old. Nice work, buddy!
Lesson learned: Good things are even better when you share them.
When I woke up this morning I knew it was going to be a “I have to be outside today” day just by the way the light was streaming through the blinds in our bedroom. As I do every morning, I made my way downstairs in my jammies and bed-head hair and let the dog out for his morning “business.” When I opened the door, I felt something strange—warmth radiating from the sun. I know I exaggerate when I say “strange;” it has only been brisk for a week or so but I’ve already grown cranky from it. So today’s balmy weather struck me right in the happy chord. It was time to buck up and do what I’d been talking about doing for weeks—head to the South and pick apples. (And by “South,” I mean waaay dooown in Northern Virginia, of course.)
I fired up the computer and whipped up some research. Well, actually, I spent a good hour plus plotting a google map with apple orchards, restaurants, and the best route for cruising down Skyline Drive. As noon approached, I woke up my grumpy husband (he hates being woken up “early” on weekends). I nudged and nagged until he rolled out of bed.
We left shortly after 1PM for our big adventure. It was warm enough to enjoy the drive with the windows all the way down, even when cruising at faster speeds on the highway. I played navigator as my printouts flapped in the wind. My husband said:
You’d better watch, those things are going to fly out the window.”
I scoffed. Things don’t actually fly out the window in real life! My life is funny and silly and embarrassing but not quite to that level of slapstick comedy, right? A few minutes later I needed to recheck the directions to find out what exit number to look for on Route 66. I flipped through the pages (2 pages of maps, 1 of written directions). I found the sheet with my handwritten notes of directions and scanned it. I followed my annotations down the page with my finger. And then, without warning, a gust of wind blew up . . . and whisked my page of directions right out of the car. It flew out the window. I was dumbfounded. I still can’t really believe that it actually happened; I mean, stuff like that doesn’t actually happen, does it? Well, apparently it does. At least to me.
Luckily my dismay didn’t last long. I jotted down what I could remember of the directions on the remaining two sheets I held in my hand and I sheepishly rolled my window up half-mast.
A not-so-short drive later (made all the longer by a longstanding lack of musical capability in our aging auto), we pulled in to the first orchard on the map. Gliding along a pleasantly sloping road, we cruised past a few cows here, a few sheep there. The air was fresh (aside from the scent of cow) and I breathed in the crisp, country atmosphere. Adjacent to the gravel parking area sat several large wooden crates filled high with shiny red and green apples. My mouth watered as I approached a man who looked like he could help. He explained to us some of the qualities of the different apple varieties—Granny Smith, Stayman, York—each more delicious-looking than the next. He seemed quite content to carry on about the ready-picked apples but that wasn’t what we were there for. I interjected (politely, of course):
That’s great but, um, . . . where are the pick-your-own apples located?”
He chuckled—chuckled, I tell you!—before gesturing at yonder hills and explaining:
Well, the orchards are up there. The trees have been picked darn clean. If you’re able find anything, it’s free.”
While he wasn’t cruel in his delivery, I could still feel my heart sink with the news. He gave me a knowing and sympathetic look. As if to ease my suffering, he pulled a map of the farm out of his back pocket and pointed out where we were free to drive and “hunt” for apples. I nearly tackled him with glee.
Onward, ho!” I thought. (Even I am not cheesy enough to have said that out loud in front of a stranger.)
And so we went, over the hills and not-so-far away. We drove for a few minutes up and down the hilly dirt path until we came to what looked like a suitable clearing. We hadn’t seen any other cars near the orchards and so my optimist side thought “wow, we might really strike gold here if no one else has bothered to ask about pick-your-own opportunities” while my practical side thought “dangnabit, I can’t believe I’m the only one who didn’t get the memo that the only apples left in this orchard are the shriveled up rotting things lying beneath the lonely trees.” The reality turned out to be sort of both. There were a few lost souls wandering around the rows of bare apple trees, calling to one another:
Oooh! I think I see one! Oh, no wait . . . Nope. It’s black on one side and has a worm sticking out of the other.”
At first we thought we’d have to settle for a few marble-sized specimens we stumbled upon. And then I spotted it: dangling just within arms reach, a bright and shiny mirage in the midst of an apple-free desert.
Plucking the fruit from its home, I squealed with delight. No sooner had I documented my booty with a photo when I succumbed to temptation. A regular Eve in the Garden of Eden, I defied my better judgment and dug in. I thought the first bite would be sour and that I would learn quickly what a mistake it is to give in to one’s gut-derived whims. But I was pleasantly surprised when my miniature apple tasted just like . . . a full sized apple! I was amazed.
That one bite was enough to sustain me through another hour of hunting and munching on mini-fruits. In the meantime, my husband was busy foraging ever-larger apples from ever-higher tree limbs. I was lucky to be hunting for apples with an eagle-eyed, monkey-limbed, mule-determined partner. We made our way to a section of Granny Smith trees and that’s where he hit upon the mother lode: a medium-sized apple, hidden among the leaves. I turns out that this variety sports trees with fuller foliage and the pickers who came before had passed over the fine specimen, hidden within a leafy camouflage. He had come upon the apple not through visual inspection, but by sticking his hands full-force into the bushy limb and feeling around sight-unseen. I watched in horror, thinking of all the inchworms and baby birds I’d squish with my fingers should I try such a tactic. But the approach worked wonders for him (fearless, I tell you). Of course we ate that apple too before waltzing back to the car with a bounty of fruit overflowing from our pockets and wide grins on our faces.
We pulled out of the orchard filled with a bloated sense of accomplishment and a malnourished sense of disappointment. We had defied the odds and left with enough apples to sustain a small child for at least a couple of hours. The efforts left us ravenous and we headed to one of the pit stops recommended on a chow hound Web site: the Apple House. I’d rather not go into too much detail about our experience but let me tell you this: avoid the bison burger, the pulled pork sandwich, the house-made chips, and the much-touted donuts. The milkshakes are worth a stop but if you’re looking for an actual meal, I’d look elsewhere.
Our spirits unshaken by the alarmingly poor food, we carried onwards towards our second destination: the lovely Skyline Drive within Shenandoah National Park. Now, this is my kind of hiking! My kind of hiking in that it isn’t really hiking at all, it’s driving. We covered 30+ miles in about an hour, stopping to enjoy the dozens of scenic overlooks and snapping photos like they were going out of style. The many-colored leaves created a stunning palette for our viewing pleasure. I gleefully threw my arms up through the sunroof and out the passenger-side window, attempting to capture the sheer joy of slicing through the mountainous terrain in a sports car. (Luckily, the camera didn’t go the way of my printed directions.) Despite the technicolor trees, however, my favorite photo is a mostly-gray-scale piece depicting the layers upon layers of mountains jutting up and out into the distance.
As we lost the sun to the evening, we headed back north towards home with visions of a wonderful autumn day dancing in our heads. And then we hit traffic on 66. At 6PM on a Saturday. For no apparent reason. Just like we had at 2PM that same day for no apparent reason (and in the opposite direction).
Lessons learned: Don’t be size-ist; tiny apples can be just a scrumptious as larger apples. Don’t give up. And avoid Route 66 whenever possible.